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The innocent sinner

July 2, 2009 · Leave a Comment

    It’s Mingshang’s birthday this week and it’s also the 9th year Mingshang taught in the G senior high school.  We had a dinner with one of our friends in University. The teaching career in Taiwan isn’t always easily especially in private school. You’re not only need to work a long hours but almost 24 hours on duty because you’ve never know what happen on your lambs. Mingshang got a bad luck on his career and brought him a hard time recently. 

Mingshang

Mingshang

       You will never know where the crisis comes from no matter how much you take good care of your life. That’s this story comes from. One day, some of his students hanged out in a park nearby his school. There are some teen gangs also chatted there. When the teenager meets the teenager, it means fire. Even no-one knew where is the fire comes from. The two gangs have a serious fight because they don’t like each other. Some went to the hospital.

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        It’s not a surprising story and probably happened 100 time in a senior high shcool. It’s a simple case if you see from an education point of view. But, if it’s political point of view, it might be another story. Mingshang believes in his humanistic education thought. In his school, controled students by army style is a lot more simple than humanistic thought. The director of his department is a loyal believer and he asked Mingshang needs to take the responsibility of this issue. (I thought he waits for a long time.)  He commanded Mingshang hand over his class and no class for him to lead next semester.

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     Most parents of Mingshang’s class was shocked and volunteerly sent letters to the president of the school. They all knew he is a responsible teacher and the students love him. However, it embarassed the director more. The political issue always resolved by the political way. The final resolution the president made is “Mingshang still need to hand over his class but will lead the other class of the 1 grade (the fresh fish) next semester. Mingshang hurts a lot by this case. He loved his students and family. However, he almost lost his job and the passion of the education by an unexpected trouble because of the political reason.   

Fang-pong

Fang-pong

        I remember a story I read when I studied in University. There is a guy in Han dynastic called “Fang-pong”. At his era, the eunuchs held the government and the emperor. They corrupted, sold the government position and taxed heavy on people. Fang-pong wrote many letters to the emperor, killed many robbers and sent many corrupted governor to jail but most of them have relationship with eunuchs. The eunuchs gave him some accusations and sentenced his death penalty. 

The place where chinese did the execution

The place where chinese did the execution

        The last day in his execution ground, he made his extraordinary last will and the sentences are still immortally sounds in my mind even he said it 2000 years ago.  The history book said :

        Before the butcher cutted his head, he said  to his son :  

        吾欲使汝為惡,則惡不可為;吾欲使汝為善,則我不為惡。

        I want you to do the evil deed. However, people shouldn’t do the bad thing. I wish you to do the benevolent deed. However, I never do the evil thing.

         That’s what I thought, too. I don’t know this world either.

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Daphanie’s wedding banquet

May 28, 2009 · 1 Comment

     People said Chinese wedding banquet is boring. “Yes” and “No” at the same time. You need to follow all the traditional “Manual” to finish this ceremony. For people cares about personal style more, the restaurant also knew how to make their customer happy.

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      Daphanie’s wedding is one of the typical model. It combines the tranditional and creative at the same time. Before the couple comes to the banquet, the media shows how they met each other and how they fall in love. They had a group travel. When Leo were capable to remember one paragraph lines of Steven Chow’s movie, Daphanie felt impressed and fall in love immediately with this sunny boy.

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        The taiwanese and chinese love to sing like the westerner loves dancing . However, to sing in the wedding banquet needs courage. That’s the first surprise of this wedding banquet. It opens by the couple’s coming with Leo’s singing. I don’t know how many times they practiced. But, the groom sang pretty well.

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        Daphanie also sang one song to thank her parents after she changed her second clothes for the banquet. It’s a touching moment. They plan to live Shanghai after they get married. That’s the sweet part of the taiwanese wedding banquet. The parents are always have their roles during the banquet and the couple usually thanks the parents firstly. In the west, the wedding is more like couple’s business. Here, the wedding is more like two families’ business. No matter which style you like, no-one won’t feel touching when you see a daughter sings a thankful song for her parents in the most important day of her life.   

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        About the creative idea of the banquet, the couple played an interesting game. They wanted every guest wrote a greeting card. They stamped on the groom when the groom comes. When the third time they came to the banquet, the groom is like an alived poster and it’s hard to see his face.

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       After they entered, the bride will pick up three greeting cards on groom.  The people whose greeting card has been pick up by the groom will have a secret gift and have chance to congratulate the couple face to face on the stage.

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       Bruce got the pleasure. He brought his two daughters to congratulate Daphanie. His daughters are cute. Every time she saw us she would make a leaf’s shape below her chin to show she is a pretty girl like a flower the last two years. She didn’t do that this time she saw me. Maybe she can’t recognize me when I show up alone. Bruce had his third kid this year. The boy is cute just like his elder sisters.

 

Bruce's new borned son

Bruce's new borned son

 

Bruce's daughter

Bruce's daughter

           After the banquet, the classmates went to a tea house called “secrect garden” nearby culture university. I haven’t went the area nearby culture university for a long time. It’s so familiar but strange.

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      For more photo of this wedding banquet, please see the link below:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/orpheuslin/sets/72157620618951269/

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Love is beyond distances

May 27, 2009 · Leave a Comment

           I’ve been Daphanie’s classmate and friend for more than a decade. When I studied in University, Daphanie, flower and I groups a team to write a graduation essay. It’s not necessary for a Bachelor degree. However, we would like to know the level difference between the MBA student and us. Our graduation essay got the annual first rated award. Because of the essay, we spent many times to study and discuss together.

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Flower's family

The bride waiting room

The bride's waiting room

     

Red Envelope

Red Envelope

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

    

       One day morning, Daphanie was excited and told me she made a dream. She said she saw her future husband but the shadow hidden his face. After she went toward him. He has gone and she said the last scene before she waked up is a sunset view in the ocean and shows two word 海西 (to translate word by word are Sea and West) . She asked me what does the dream means and want me to analysis it. Well, in Frued’s psychological analysis theorem, she needs a lay. But, I just thought it’s too much stresses for the essay and didn’t give her too much advices.

Daphanie - The bride

Daphanie - The bride

The banquet ceremony

The banquet ceremony

       When Daphanie studied in her master degree, she had an international academic conference. That’s how she met her future Beijing husband Leo who comes from China. After the conference, they started to contact each other by e-mail and phone calls.  Their love haven’t vanished by distance and time. In the other way around, their love brews more mellow and sweet year after years. The last ten years, they met each other almost once a year. It sounds like Arabian night or the chinese love story “Altair and Vega”, but a real story version.I’m proud she is my friend.

http://meeme.wordpress.com/2008/08/05/chinese-lovers-day/  

 

Bruce and his daughters congratulate the couple

Bruce and his daughters congratulate the couple

        If you think that’s the only thing she can do for her love, you’re underestimated what love can do for a person. After several years work, we all have “office style body shape”, she isn’t the exception. However, to keep the beautiful moment and have a great effort on wedding photos, she really works hard to fight against calories and fat. She lost almost 25 pounds for this wedding. If you asked me, what’s the most efficient way of lossing weight. Get marry or get divorce. 

 http://meeme.wordpress.com/2008/06/06/say-goodbye-to-sadness/ 

 

Mingshang, Rita and my god daughter

Mingshang, Rita and my god daughter

        The Gods’ will bring the 海西 (The man comes from the western side of the sea) guy to Daphanie’s life and starts this amazing (almost impossible) foreign marriage. (TAIWAN AND CHINA ARE TWO COUNTRIES!!) The last ten years, when people are talking about how one’s boyfriend/girlfriend depressed her/him yesterday, they only can talk about how many days should wait until next time they meet each other by international phone call. However, they made it.  

 

The wedding photo album

The wedding photo album

            Love is beyond distnaces.  People can travel other countries likes travel other counties by airplane. People can chat and see the other’s face by skype. However, does people really get closer by all those technologies? After all those and Daphanie’s wedding, I found out the most farest distance in the world are among people’s heart. 

 

The new couple

The new couple

For more photo about this wedding banquet, please see the link below:

http://cid-14264881f3145c7b.skydrive.live.com/browse.aspx/Daphanie%7C4s%20wedding  

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